If you’ve been struggling to have a long term relationship with an amazing person who is most compatible with you, then you might have trouble believing in true love. So when someone talks about “how to attract true love”, you’re probably going to be a bit skeptical about what they will talk about and if it actually works. But I’m here to tell you that you can have that amazing relationship that you hear about in fairy tales or even see in those movies that have the happy ending and I am living proof of it.
Do You Think ‘True Love’ exists?
To know how to attract true love, you need to first have faith that it exists and is possible. You need to believe, in order to absorb the information into your subconscious so that you can start to see it as real and true. We don’t know what we don’t know until someone shows us another way that works. For you to see, believe and attract true love into your life, you need to be open to learning and changing your current thoughts, actions and beliefs around relationships.
You Are The Creator Of Your Life
Attracting true love means that you have to believe that you can create your own life and what you want. This means you have to take responsibility for your past relationships, by knowing that you attracted them as well for a reason to learn something. Now though, you can empower yourself to create the relationship you have always wanted. This starts by realizing that subconsciously you prefer to be single. So there is something that you learned early on in life about relationships that created your decision that it is better to be single than to be in a relationship.
So now as you get older and start looking for that partner to spend the rest of your life with, you will keep attracting partners who won’t work out because you still have that old belief that it’s better to be single. This is created through our different experiences growing up, so each individual person will have created a different belief about relationships, depending on what was happening around them.
After learning a lot about the law of attraction and other laws of the universe, I finally attracted my own true love and wanted to share what I thought, were the steps I took for this to happen. Maybe these might help you to get clear too on how to attract true love into your life as well.
5 Steps How To Attract True Love:
~ Step 1
In my 5 step process, you need to start with knowing what you want in a partner. When you write down what you want, you realise that your past partners weren’t right for you. Then you get excited because you start to believe that you are worthy of having this amazing partner with the attributes that you think of as being most compatible with you. Picture yourself with this true love and imagine how it would feel being together and the things you will be doing together. What qualities will they have that you admire and appreciate? What values will they have that will be similar or the same as yours so you can both move forward in the same direction as you both enjoy the same things?
~ Step 2
The next step is to love who you are and this includes being able to be yourself, especially around potential partners who you date. This was difficult for me originally because I tried to hide that I was a spiritual person in case they didn’t accept me for that. I would also go with whatever they would recommend rather than speaking up. So when I met Michael, I had realised this and was no longer afraid to say what I wanted.
This is where I learned to look in the mirror at myself and say “you are beautiful”. This was really hard for me as the first time my sister told me to do it, I cried and said I couldn’t. Then I changed from writing down everything I hated about myself to things I liked about myself and this improved my confidence. I began to stand taller and stop hunching my shoulders, especially to guys who weren’t as tall as me. You also then begin to smile more as you know you’re a great catch and there’s heaps of guys out there who would want to be with you.
~ Step 3
The third step is to let go of the past and this can be difficult if you keep thinking about and holding onto anything from your ex-partners. This step was difficult for me as well as I started to throw out clothes that my ex’s had bought me. I deleted pictures and phone numbers and even sent them text messages asking them to never contact me again as we weren’t right for each other. This is particularly hard as we can love getting the attention from a guy as it makes us feel special and wanted, even if it’s just a text message from them saying ‘how are you’. Then you build up hope that they do want to be with you, only to work out later that they don’t want to commit.
We tend to hold onto ex’s as we believe we don’t deserve anything better or we can’t imagine anything better out there. When I finally met my true love, I wondered why I wasted so much time going backwards and forwards with guys who didn’t really want to be with me. Who didn’t appreciate me.
So it’s time to only go out with guys who appreciate you!
~ Step 4
My fourth step is to take action, and signing up to an online dating website is one action step. Even though you sign up you still need to be active by contacting people and making sure your photos and information you share about yourself are honest and recent. This is where you are honest with who you are as a person and what you want in a partner. If a good-looking guy contacts you and his profile doesn’t match what you want, you need to be strong and tell him “no thank you” straight up. Don’t waste time with someone just because you think they’re good-looking. Remember your long term goal is a life partnership. So they will need ro be the total package.
~ Step 5
The last step is to know you deserve this true love relationship. Focus on and write down your own good qualities and attributes as this will keep your confidence high. When you find the right person you will know it’s the best relationship because you will both work together really well and it will feel easy. You will also both be very open and honest with your communication to each other and know that the other person will never intentionally hurt you. You will create a bond of being best friends, as well as lovers.
When you know you deserve this true love relationship, you will start to notice and feel for what I called red and green flags. A red flag might be him criticizing you for something, not returning your call or text message, or being untruthful about something. It will give you an upset feeling in your stomach before your head takes over and you start to think he didn’t mean it, or he really does care about me.
A green flag might be that the conversation flows easily, that you find you have similar likes and things in common, that you value the same things. It could also be him doing romantic things for you, especially when they’re unexpected. So when you start dating, you will notice more green flags than red flags. It will feel easy and effortless to be together, to talk and communicate and to organise time to spend together. He will want to spend time with you.
You Need To Believe It Before You See It
Start by looking around for successful happy long term couples to help you create that belief that they exist. When I first started looking I found so many and started reading all their stories of how they met. It was so inspiring. I found a lot of them from listening to ‘The Ultimate Soulmate Summit’ which was on at the time.
This also means no longer listening to others complain about men and how bad they are, how they don’t listen and they never help. Stop getting involved in conversations that include putting men down, as there are good men out there. There is especially a really good, single man out there waiting for a girl like you who he can adore and spend the rest of his life with.
When you are with the right person, you know that they will work at it just as much as you because they will want it to last as well. Remember there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, so even when you attract your true love, there will still be disagreements and conflicts because you will both still be different from each other. But the difference with your true love is that even after they see the parts of you that you don’t like, they will still want to be with you and no one else for the rest of their lives and you will feel the same.