To Attract Your True Love, You Need to Love Yourself

What Does That Mean Exactly?

So many coaches, books, audios, webinars & seminars on finding the love of your life, explain the importance of loving yourself, but how do you love yourself more?

Loving yourself coincides with being yourself, because when you love who you are, then you’re happy to be yourself no matter whom you are with.  So it’s about learning to honour yourself in all aspects your life and especially while dating on your path to finding your True Love.

Being yourself also involves tuning into your true inner self and is a process of a combination of things.  The main part of the process is the journey of life you are going through before you meet your True Love. 

Loving yourself involves being happy with where you are and what you are doing at the moment.  You need to find that inner peace that everything is good no matter what happens.  You need to appreciate everything in your life and see the good in it, even if it’s hard.

Loving yourself & being true to yourself also involves being honest with yourself and speaking up when you know something isn’t right.  Saying “no” when you mean no and having the confidence to say “yes” as well when you want something.  This means letting go of whether you think you will hurt someone else’s feelings, because you are honouring yourself and loving yourself when you say something that is true for you.  As long as speaking your truth is also respectful to others around you as well.

An example of this could include, saying “no” when a guy on a date wants to kiss you and you’d rather wait until he calls you his girlfriend before you get intimate.  You may not want to hurt his feelings, so it takes courage to say no.  No matter what his reaction will be, you’ll know that if he’s a good man looking for “True Love” too, that he won’t mind waiting and making sure you’re right for him too before you get intimate.

Same with the guys, as an example for them could be having the courage to say “no” when she invites you in, as you know you need to take it slow too in the beginning to make sure that she is the girl you have been looking for, without getting caught up with “looks only” if she’s really attractive.

So loving yourself means that you are happy and fulfilled on your own before you meet your True Love.  That will mean you won’t get upset when a guy doesn’t call you back, as you’ll know that he wasn’t the right guy for you and that someone better is coming along.  So that when they come along, you don’t require love from them to feel loved.  As love is a feeling already within yourself and you can already look yourself in the mirror and say “I Love You” before someone else looks at you and says that.

You also show love for yourself when you no longer make negative jokes about yourself or think negative thoughts about yourself.  This could include jokes about how unattractive you are, or saying how dumb you are.  Because you will respect yourself to know that you are attractive just as you were created and you are smart in ways that may be different to others, but you appreciate that and don’t need to put yourself down to make others feel better.

You will no longer rely on someone else to make you happy and you make time everyday to do things that you really enjoy.  You can support others as well as be able to open up to let others support you.  You will know why you do what you do everyday and will feel fulfilled or will just enjoy making time to do what makes you most happy.

Loving yourself is a full time job, as we have thousands of thoughts in our mind everyday and we can determine what these thoughts are and how they affect us.  So if you do have many negative thoughts about yourself, you can change that now and turn it around to more positive thoughts.  Start to see how brilliant you really are and appreciate that you’re special and unique.  You shouldn’t want to be like anyone else, as your “True Love” will appreciate how special and unique you are too when they met you.  Being unique will be like a breath of fresh air for them.

I thought I was too high maintenance for any guy to put up with, but I learned to fall in love with my so-called “fussiness” and finally met someone who also loves that about me.  For those who know me, I am very fussy.  I prefer gluten free, dairy free, sugar free, organic etc.  Now when I go out with my husband to cafes he asks the waiter before I do if they have any foods, which include the above.  I feel like he knows more about me more than what I know about myself. Your true love will love and respect you for being different, so have the confidence to speak up, say what you want or what you prefer and he will admire you for it. To learn more about my journey, you can go here to “About Lauren“.

So now you have some tips for loving yourself, they won’t help much unless you put them into action.  So start now by saying some nice thoughts to yourself in your head.  If you need more assistance to catch these negative thoughts to turn them into positives, write some affirmations around the house & in your car to help you remember how brilliant you are. 

We all prefer to be around happy, positive people who love their life, so be the person you want to attract into your life too. Where you’re being different, will be like a breath of fresh air to attract the right partner or true love.

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How To Attract True Love: The 5 Steps I Did To Attract My Own True Love

If you’ve been struggling to have a long term relationship with an amazing person who is most compatible with you, then you might have trouble believing in true love. So when someone talks about “how to attract true love”, you’re probably going to be a bit skeptical about what they will talk about and if it actually works. But I’m here to tell you that you can have that amazing relationship that you hear about in fairy tales or even see in those movies that have the happy ending and I am living proof of it.

Do You Think ‘True Love’ exists?

To know how to attract true love, you need to first have faith that it exists and is possible. You need to believe, in order to absorb the information into your subconscious so that you can start to see it as real and true. We don’t know what we don’t know until someone shows us another way that works. For you to see, believe and attract true love into your life, you need to be open to learning and changing your current thoughts, actions and beliefs around relationships.

You Are The Creator Of Your Life

Attracting true love means that you have to believe that you can create your own life and what you want. This means you have to take responsibility for your past relationships, by knowing that you attracted them as well for a reason to learn something. Now though, you can empower yourself to create the relationship you have always wanted. This starts by realizing that subconsciously you prefer to be single. So there is something that you learned early on in life about relationships that created your decision that it is better to be single than to be in a relationship.

So now as you get older and start looking for that partner to spend the rest of your life with, you will keep attracting partners who won’t work out because you still have that old belief that it’s better to be single. This is created through our different experiences growing up, so each individual person will have created a different belief about relationships, depending on what was happening around them.

After learning a lot about the law of attraction and other laws of the universe, I finally attracted my own true love and wanted to share what I thought, were the steps I took for this to happen.  Maybe these might help you to get clear too on how to attract true love into your life as well.

5 Steps How To Attract True Love:

~ Step 1

In my 5 step process, you need to start with knowing what you want in a partner. When you write down what you want, you realise that your past partners weren’t right for you. Then you get excited because you start to believe that you are worthy of having this amazing partner with the attributes that you think of as being most compatible with you. Picture yourself with this true love and imagine how it would feel being together and the things you will be doing together. What qualities will they have that you admire and appreciate? What values will they have that will be similar or the same as yours so you can both move forward in the same direction as you both enjoy the same things?

~ Step 2

The next step is to love who you are and this includes being able to be yourself, especially around potential partners who you date. This was difficult for me originally because I tried to hide that I was a spiritual person in case they didn’t accept me for that. I would also go with whatever they would recommend rather than speaking up. So when I met Michael, I had realised this and was no longer afraid to say what I wanted.

This is where I learned to look in the mirror at myself and say “you are beautiful”. This was really hard for me as the first time my sister told me to do it, I cried and said I couldn’t. Then I changed from writing down everything I hated about myself to things I liked about myself and this improved my confidence. I began to stand taller and stop hunching my shoulders, especially to guys who weren’t as tall as me. You also then begin to smile more as you know you’re a great catch and there’s heaps of guys out there who would want to be with you.

~ Step 3

The third step is to let go of the past and this can be difficult if you keep thinking about and holding onto anything from your ex-partners. This step was difficult for me as well as I started to throw out clothes that my ex’s had bought me. I deleted pictures and phone numbers and even sent them text messages asking them to never contact me again as we weren’t right for each other. This is particularly hard as we can love getting the attention from a guy as it makes us feel special and wanted, even if it’s just a text message from them saying ‘how are you’. Then you build up hope that they do want to be with you, only to work out later that they don’t want to commit.

We tend to hold onto ex’s as we believe we don’t deserve anything better or we can’t imagine anything better out there. When I finally met my true love, I wondered why I wasted so much time going backwards and forwards with guys who didn’t really want to be with me. Who didn’t appreciate me.

So it’s time to only go out with guys who appreciate you!

~ Step 4

My fourth step is to take action, and signing up to an online dating website is one action step. Even though you sign up you still need to be active by contacting people and making sure your photos and information you share about yourself are honest and recent. This is where you are honest with who you are as a person and what you want in a partner. If a good-looking guy contacts you and his profile doesn’t match what you want, you need to be strong and tell him “no thank you” straight up. Don’t waste time with someone just because you think they’re good-looking. Remember your long term goal is a life partnership. So they will need ro be the total package.

~ Step 5

The last step is to know you deserve this true love relationship. Focus on and write down your own good qualities and attributes as this will keep your confidence high. When you find the right person you will know it’s the best relationship because you will both work together really well and it will feel easy. You will also both be very open and honest with your communication to each other and know that the other person will never intentionally hurt you. You will create a bond of being best friends, as well as lovers.

When you know you deserve this true love relationship, you will start to notice and feel for what I called red and green flags. A red flag might be him criticizing you for something, not returning your call or text message, or being untruthful about something. It will give you an upset feeling in your stomach before your head takes over and you start to think he didn’t mean it, or he really does care about me.

A green flag might be that the conversation flows easily, that you find you have similar likes and things in common, that you value the same things. It could also be him doing romantic things for you, especially when they’re unexpected. So when you start dating, you will notice more green flags than red flags. It will feel easy and effortless to be together, to talk and communicate and to organise time to spend together. He will want to spend time with you.

You Need To Believe It Before You See It

Start by looking around for successful happy long term couples to help you create that belief that they exist. When I first started looking I found so many and started reading all their stories of how they met.  It was so inspiring.  I found a lot of them from listening to ‘The Ultimate Soulmate Summit’ which was on at the time.

This also means no longer listening to others complain about men and how bad they are, how they don’t listen and they never help. Stop getting involved in conversations that include putting men down, as there are good men out there. There is especially a really good, single man out there waiting for a girl like you who he can adore and spend the rest of his life with.

When you are with the right person, you know that they will work at it just as much as you because they will want it to last as well. Remember there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, so even when you attract your true love, there will still be disagreements and conflicts because you will both still be different from each other. But the difference with your true love is that even after they see the parts of you that you don’t like, they will still want to be with you and no one else for the rest of their lives and you will feel the same.

How To Get A Guy To Like You

Have you got a guy on your mind that you would like a relationship with?

Have you been wondering how to get a guy to like you?

Have you been trying to flirt with him, talking to him and giving him looks, but you’re still not sure if he likes you?

Well, from all the dating tips I’ve learned over the years, there are some things you can do which can contribute to getting a guy to like you. Make sure though before you get the guy to like you, that he would be the right guy for you.

Being the right guy for you means that you share some similar interests and have similar values with how you want to live. I learned the hard way when there was a guy I was crazy about, he wasn’t healthy at all and I needed to be healthy due to many health issues. So it was hard to be with someone who didn’t care what they ate or drank, but I had to watch what I would consume, as it would affect my gut.  This can then become an issue down the track when cooking meals etc.  Some having some things in common is important, which is why I’ve listed some tips below.

Be Your Best Self – Show Him You Have An Awesome Life

The most important tip for how to get a guy to like you, is to show him what an awesome life you already have and how happy you are on you own. Men love to make women happy, and this shows him that you’re an easy person to make happy as you’re already happy with your own life whether he’s there or not. For him to see you happy doing things you really enjoy and having something to talk to him about that excites you and makes you happy, is also such an attractive trait for a man to see in a woman.

So make sure you know yourself first. The better you know yourself, the easier it will be for you to know what makes you happy. As the guy can’t be around you all the time anyway, so making yourself happy should be your number one priority. This will include following your hobbies, interests and passions where you’re doing something you really enjoy. From doing this, we are then illuminating that happiness from us which makes us a pleasure to be around.

He’s going to want to be around you more when he sees how happy you are in your life doing things you love. This will make him think how easy it would be to make you happy because you’re already happy. If he has similar interests, hobbies or passions, then it can be even better as you can both share what you love along the way.

Before I met my husband, I had a great job I enjoyed and was doing lots of self development to learn how to have a great relationship, be my best self, learn about healthy eating and was pursuing a dream to be self-employed. This intrigued him as he was interested in those things as well and has always been open to learn how to have better health, wealth and relationships too.

Flirt With Him

Once you are happy with your life, then you have the best chance to create a happy relationship too with a partner. This is where you can incorporate some flirting to let him know you’re interested and to see if he likes you as well. There is a happy balance though with flirting as some women can come on too strong, so remember it needs to be natura, light and easy going.

Confidence is key and the main aspect to successful flirting. So to do this, you need to know that you are worthy of getting him to like you and see yourself as a great catch.  To put yourself in this positive frame of mind, list all the things that are great about yourself that he would like too.

Smiling at him a lot can be one of the easiest ways of flirting with him to get him to like you. This will also give you signs if he likes you as well, as he’ll be happy to flirt back and would smile a lot at you too.

Another light way to flirt with him to see if he likes you is getting into a conversation with him where you’re kidding to see if you get a smile. An example of this could be saying what great weather you’re having, even when it’s thunderstorms and pouring rain. Make sure you say it with a smirk on your face so he knows you’re kidding too.  Never say anything negative about him though, even if you are kidding, as he could still take offense to it.

Play Hard To Get

Another way of how to get a guy to like you, is playing hard to get. An example of this is where men love a challenge and will work hard for something of value, but if it’s too easy to get, then they don’t value it as much. Men will generally say that they don’t want a woman to play games, yet they do love to chase the girl whose not easy to get.

This even happened to me when I wasn’t planning it consciously. I went out on a few dates with a guy, but didn’t want to sleep with him as I had a bit of a fear around trusting a guy too soon. He told me about this woman who threw herself at him and they had sex straight away and then he said he would lose interest. Whereas he couldn’t stop thinking about me and wanted to spend more time with me, even though we weren’t getting intimate yet.  He said it was driving him crazy as he did want to get really close to me, but I was determined to take it slow.

Part of playing hard to get means never offering your number to a guy, as he’ll need to win your approval and will want your number without you offering. A guy who is truly interested in you will never give you his number, as he’s not sure you’ll call (and you shouldn’t).  Part of getting a guy to like you is also allowing him to pursue you.

Listen To Him

Something that most women don’t often think about, is how much we actively and attentively listen to what a man is saying when we are out with them. If you’re a bit infatuated with a guy, then generally you just keep looking at how attractive and good-looking he is. So if you are really interested in what he says when he’s talking and ask questions back relating more to what he says, then he’ll feel important and heard.

We all want to be loved for who we are on the inside, as looks can change as you grow older, so really listening well to him when he speaks is really an important way to get a guy to like you more. Chemistry is important, but I did hear once that if chemistry is a 10/10, run the other way and that a good chemistry is a 7/10.

Things To Remember

There’s many ways you can work on how to get a guy to like you, but just remember, you need to like yourself first and know that you’re a great catch. These tips are just ways to get a guy to like you, but attraction is still in the eye of the beholder. But the best way you can still look most attractive to a guy, is to follow these tips.

So remember to be your best self and follow your interest, hobbies and passion that makes you happy. Having a happy life makes you look more attractive and have a good energy about you that will also attract a guy who will have a similar happy energy about him as well. Then when you’re meeting guys, use those flirting techniques on those guys you like to see who’s interested in you as well.

When you know he’s interested, then play some hard to get, as that will make him want you more and enjoy the chase, while respecting you for not being too easy as well. Remember the other important part where when you’re in conversation with a guy you like, you really need to listen to him attentively. Ask back questions in relation to what he has said and give him your total focus when you’re talking as this will make him feel important.

These are just some tips from what I’ve learned, read and experienced of getting a guy to like you so make sure you put them into practice and all the best for your relationship.